tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post6162605504126722505..comments2023-11-03T07:47:05.286-05:00Comments on Blogging While Black version 4.0: At What Cost?The Brown Bloggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05892123380005014339noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-635720764033430232009-06-21T02:29:20.234-05:002009-06-21T02:29:20.234-05:00If folks ain't honest with THEMSELVES then the...If folks ain't honest with THEMSELVES then they surely can't be honest with NOBODY else. Love starts from within and then works its way out. . . I don't know if that got ANYTHING to do with your post, I'm just saying. *chuckle*Aly Cat 121https://www.blogger.com/profile/16546872299549844249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-56111120175726882712009-06-21T00:52:27.292-05:002009-06-21T00:52:27.292-05:00The last statement definitely sums up what I belie...The last statement definitely sums up what I believe is at the heart of many people's frustrations. Anger and confusion may knock but really need an invitation to do their dirty work. I've been on both sides of those emotions and I must say that my life is a whole lot less complicated when I make a conscious effort not to get wrapped up in things that won't be changed by my anger or other reactions. I tend to think that nothing worth having comes without some form of headache and labor. Hang in there, everything will work out :-).♥ CG ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/06312573343401136201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-80136040511398189332009-06-17T14:06:52.174-05:002009-06-17T14:06:52.174-05:00If you say to yourself, 'Dag, I wish I had a g...If you say to yourself, 'Dag, I wish I had a good relationship', then you owe her and YOURSELF to find out if y'all can make it. Personally, I think it will haunt you if you don't. You miss every shot you don't take, and you lose every game you don't close out on the 3 point shooter (man, that Jameer Nelson thing in game 4 is still hard to swallow!).<br /><br />I know you don't know me, and I don't know you. But I am deep into the 'vibe' of people and things. So I want the best for you. Stick to the path, and in spite of obstacles, go after what you want. <br /><br />That is why it is THE ROAD, that is the goal. Be cool.<br />L&R<br />MarkBig Mark 243https://www.blogger.com/profile/10974573439218884164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-91954737391844813112009-06-17T14:06:22.395-05:002009-06-17T14:06:22.395-05:00I am trying not to jump in with my nonsense on eve...I am trying not to jump in with my nonsense on everyone journal. It isn't like I have answers myself. But there are a few things I wouldn't mind speaking on.<br /><br />Signal corp, eh? RATT platoon cat? I remember those characters. Did my 71L10 there and held up walls at the Cadence Club on post. Went on my merry military way from there. Daps to your service ...<br /><br />Journey of a thousand miles begins with but the first step. When I left my then fiancee, I had projected that it would take 18 - 24 months for me to get myself back online. This did NOT include the 6 1/2 months of prep before I actually left her. It is going to take a while, bruh.<br /><br />Many times, it is the road that is the goal, not the goal itself. You know how they get those greyhound motivated to chase that rabbit, with the mission set to prove who is the fastest greyhound? In the dog's mind, the goal is to catch the rabbit (work with me a little), but what happens along the way is REALLY what it is about, finding out who is the fastest.<br /><br />So you have objective. Then you have accomplishment. Occasionally they are both, but not always. That is why you watch for 'mission creep', where things seem to be going well, and then you start to try to put different stuff on your list, things that not only are unrelated to your goal, but will be unrelated to the things you accomplished.<br /><br />Small set backs, challenges are supposed to be met and dealt with. They are to be overcome and test how badly you want 'this', whatever is your goal. I remember when Ray Leonard broke my heart, catching and pounding Tommy Hearns in the 14th round. I read in some boxing magazine where Ray said something to the effect of, "You got to want it bad enough." Even if I don't have that right, that is something you keep close to you when stuff gets tight. And that doesn't get influenced by anything or anyone but YOU.<br /><br />Don't know what your wife told you, but what do YOU want? Not supposed to start a war unless you are sure of outcome, and you don't go around asking questions you don't want the answer to. If you do, OWN THAT, and move on towards your goal. <br /><br />The answer may have been on the path, or it may not have. Doesn't matter, because it is now. Time to drive on, and keep going.<br /><br />A lot of this, looking from your last statement, is stuff you know deep down ... not that it is buried, but that the answer on the surface runs deep so you know that is true.<br /><br />Since you dropped Slick Rick, and if you read my journal, you are likely to catch stuff from EVERYONE, but especially the Black Sheep. This one, is courtesy of the Jungle Bros., because you said:<br /><br />There are those that know that they only have that one shot and do whatever it takes to make life worth it, there are others that continue to question their own situation, doing nothing to solve their problems and those that seem lost in life and end up drowning in it, making life a wasted resource awarded by The Creator to the absolute wrong person.<br /><br />Now, the Jay Beez had a lyric that went, "You don't know if there'll be any more, so come girl [sic] what you waiting for?" So if you are thinking you ain't with that person, then WHAT are you waiting for?<br /><br />But I get the feeling that you think you are. I think that you are as well, simply based on her willingness to take this journey with you. As many times as I have thought I was the head of a relationship, a leader, only to find out that I was just campin', I would say that you have something that money can't buy, and no sense of anything can replace.Big Mark 243https://www.blogger.com/profile/10974573439218884164noreply@blogger.com